I am a female musician, I am in a rock band, with a bunch of fit females. We get to travel the world, play music, drink champagne and beer, meet great people and meet a few odd balls along the way. If we were male, we would have good looking young girls eating out of our hands, who would then become known as our 'groupies' or 'hangers on'. They would provide us with sexual gifts in exchange for VIP entrance to gigs and the attention from the performer during an after show party.
Through experience of working in the industry for over 10 years, I have witnessed these goings on. Whether the males in question were in a relationship or not, they would allow the girls to be all over them, lapping up the attention like they were actually the 'Gods of Rock'. If things go further then its the case of "What happens at the gig stays at the gig" Unless the groupie gave him a bout of crabs.
When I began my own musical band adventure, I thought there would have been a bit more of a similar experience to be had with the male groupie, but this was not the case. It is certainly not the reason why I started the band, but I kind of expected to get involved in similar goings due to it being part of the territory of 'The Musician'.
The first all girl rock band in a while hit the scene, and although male musicians showed us some attention, this was purely of the platonic and of the professional kind. Giving us hints, tips, advice, treating us like one of the lads whilst also acknowledging our musical talent. We did not get groupies. In fact, we were eyeballed very 'greenly' by the birds waiting for their men to appear on stage just because we shared a dressing room. "Yes we can talk to your boyfriend without it meaning something sexual you stupid bint" and " I am sorry that you know deep inside you are not the only girl he is bonking, but it is certainly not me so do not look at me like you have a set of anal beads up your arse that were far bigger than you thought they would be!!"
So we start playing across the city and gain a bit of a reputation (4 young burds on stage with guitars, lol, lets see how they do.) We shocked people, we are good and got better, we compete very greatly with established bands. It may have taken us a few years to get the right line up, tightness and rapport, but we are there now. Yet the groupies have not appeared. (too old to care now to be honest but it would be nice to have someone carry the gear)
However, I take a groupie to be a young/similar age kind of guy, waiting by the side of the stage all night until we finish buying me drinks and carrying my guitar. Our deal: We get 50+ year old men watching us from the back of a venue, (probably cumming with excitement in the corner) who then follow up their experience by sending us a friend request on Facebook.
Now out of sheer friendliness, we add them, as they have shown an interest in our band which is always very flattering. Likes/comments start appearing on every single one of our pictures/posts present and past.
The restricted view comes in handy at this point. It is a bit strange and very annoying when every notification you have has been sent through because the same person time and time again is doing the above.
They also start adding all your current friends so they can see what you are up to with others in case they miss an opportunity to see you in the flesh, again.
We shortly receive creepy perve like messages or, questions asking us why they can no longer see our posts and photos. One message I received was from a 63 year old man and it stated " Hi girls, the weather is really hot. Are you by a pool and if so are you in your bikinis? mmm"
I quickly blocked this prune balled fuck.
We have had guys hiding in our dressing room just watching us. People taking multiple photo-shots of us in places we cannot even remember going and receiving a message " such and such has tagged you in 350 photos"
Guys who come up to our personal space and brush across us "accidentally".
There have even been incidents of them turning up at family days out /personal events.
Why would you do this? Do I want to know the answer? Probably not.
Seriously, if you have subscribed to my posts and are not close family or friend then this is what we call #Stalkward.
If you begin to like or comment on everyone of my posts, photos etc this is also #Stalkward.
If you have been restricted or blocked, do not ask questions. You have been over personal in your behavior.
This is something you cannot change about yourself and why would I want to give you the opportunity to explain why you have been creepy/weird?
Loneliness is not an excuse, in fact it makes it even more pathetic and I do not accept this as a reason for you to justify making anyone feel uncomfortable.
Over all my point being is male bands get fit birds. We get creepy old men who follow us around like they own us. We are not even fucking famous!
I am not saying we feel like this about all the men who come to see us, just those who over step the mark. I am pretty sure they are fully aware of what they are doing and think they can get away with it by putting across their "wouldn't harm a fly" routine.
We have some great fans and we're a more than happy to see 98% of those who turn up to see us at a gig.
I will probably continue ranting about stalkers in another blog at some point in the near future. I feel I have not said enough about them as strange things continue to occur on such a regular basis. Birds who stalk male bands is also another topic but I will save that for another time.
Rant soon
The Musical Prostitute
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